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In my travels through Interweb-based dating, there’s someone I’ve gotten to know quite well: Me. Completing the cursory “profile” forms on the usual list of suspect dating sites means that I can dig deep inside myself and pull out all the raw and bitter truths about myself, which usually leads to…an incredibly boring profile!

So I ask you, no, I beg you, to please help me revise and construct a profile, an “About Me,” that women will find so fascinating that can’t help but click for more information.

Let’s face it, dating is difficult enough, but I need some help attracting women who are confident, independent, happy with themselves, and who conceptually know what kind of guy they’d really like to be with (and that they’re actually ready to be in a relationship with said man).  So here goes my initial effort in creating my profile information.

Please read and digest the content. All critiques and edits appreciated (and expected!)…

1) The one thing I’m most passionate about: Breathing. I mean, I really love life. From the moment my feet hit the floor in the morning until sleep fogs my mind at night I do my best to live fully, intentionally and to also have a modicum of fun each and every day.


2) The three things which I’m most thankful for: My two kids, my health, my sense of humor


3) The most influential person in my life has been: My high school band director (yeah, I was a band geek). So this teacher was a mentor to many kids. But he set expectations and expected you to live up to them. He looked to his student leaders to always do their best and we worked hard never to let him down.


4) My friends describe me as: Loyal, laugh out loud funny, intelligent, and highly flexible to the moment in question.


5) Three of my best life-skills are: Parenting, diplomacy (comes with the job), ability to either take control of situations or just go with the flow when needed.


6) The most important thing I’m looking for in a woman is: Someone who is secure in who she is.


7) The first thing you’ll probably notice about me when you meet me: My sincerity


8) I typically spend my leisure time: Counting my millions. Reading. Writing. Going to movies. Listening to music of all kinds.


9) The things I can’t live without are: Music, coffee, hot showers, jeans, my bike


10) The last book I read and enjoyed: Peace Like A River. A great first novel from a Minnesota author.


11) One thing that only my best friends know about me is: I offer the perfect mix of intelligence, wit and common sense.

Okay, bring it on. I want to hear the good, the bad and the ugly (because it’s essential that I avoid the ugly when this profile finally gets posted).  Don’t hold back now. Seriously. All suggestions to edit and improve this information will receive heavy consideration.



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Serial Daters

I do not want to be a member of the Serial Dating Club (SDC).

Serial daters really never make progress in relationships. They’re too busy dating multiple people, thus giving those they’re dating the idea that they’re a player, or not able to commit, or secretly wishing that someone better may come along.

In the past 48 hours, I had three dates with three different women. Seriously, I needed my Sunday to relax and recover from being “on” from Friday night through late Saturday evening and it became clearly problematic when I found myself unable to remember what I had told to whom. Fortunately the stories are all the same, but I don’t want a woman to think I’m crazy when I start sounding like a broken record.  So I preface stories with the standard, “Stop me if I told you this already.”

The goal here is to keep it simple and not complicate the dating process. That’s proving to be a hard task to accomplish.


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